泰国新闻网XTHAI报道，一位32岁的海员匿名分享了他令人唏嘘的感情故事，以自己的亲身经历为年轻一代敲响警钟：婚姻不能只看外表，真正的幸福藏在爱与陪伴之中。
“The Wife I Chose, The Woman I Lost”
Please hide my name. I’m a seafarer, 32 years old, and I want to share my story, not to be pitied, but to serve as a lesson.
When I was younger, I had a girlfriend named Lea.
She’s simple, not white, not sexy, not a model. But she had the kindest heart. She is the type of girl who, even if it’s just a simple greeting, is very happy. Don’t like to wander, not luxurious, just want to be with me every time I come home from the ship.
During my contracts, he was the one who took care of my family. Even if we were not married, she would visit my mother, cook food for them, and even help my younger siblings with school. She was the definition of wife material.
But then came Mariz. She was stunning. White, smooth, sexy, loves to wander and OOTD. Every time I’m with him, people look at him on a different level, like a proud trophy. My shipmates would tease me, “Great, bro, your jowa is beautiful!” And I admit, my ego liked that.
I was blinded. Even though I felt that Lea was the one who really loved, I left her. I broke her heart, and I married Mariz.
At first, happy. She’s beautiful to the eye, it’s nice to show off on social media. But as time went on, I noticed, he didn’t know how to take care. She hated visiting my family. She would complain when I sent a small shipment, there was always a complaint: “Just like this? The wife of my acquaintance, has a new car.”
Every time I go home, instead of happy greetings, complaints will be met. She was always out with her friends, posting, drinking, shopping. He has no interest in whether I am tired from the ship, whether I eat, whether my family is fine.
And that’s when the regret hit me.
One night, while I was on vacation, I passed by Lea’s place. She was there, still simple, still quiet. He was with a child, said to be her nephew. And I saw how she cared for that child, how she cared, how she smiled even though her life was not luxurious.
That moment, my chest ached. I realized, let go of the woman who could’ve been the best wife and mother.
The woman who loved me when I had nothing.
Now, I live in a big house, but it feels empty. My wife is beautiful, yes, but beauty fades when love is missing.
If only I could turn back time, I would’ve chosen the one who truly saw me as her world, not just her provider.
To all my fellow seafarers reading this: don’t marry a woman just because she’s pretty in the eyes of others.
Find the one who will stand by you, care for your family, and love you even when you have nothing.
Because right now, I am living proof that sometimes, the biggest storms aren’t on the sea. They’re in the home you built with the wrong person.
A regretful seafarer
译文：
“我选择的妻子，我失去的女人”
请隐藏我的名字。我是一名32岁的海员，想分享我的故事，不是为了博取同情，而是作为一个教训。
年轻时，我有一个女朋友，叫莉娅。
她很简单，不白皙，不性感，也不是模特。但她有一颗最善良的心。她是那种即使只是简单的问候也会非常开心的女孩。不喜欢到处游荡，不奢华，只想每次我从船上回家时陪伴我。
在我服役期间，她是照顾我家人的那个人。即使我们没有结婚，她也会去看望我母亲，为他们做饭，甚至帮我弟妹辅导功课。她就是理想妻子的定义。
但后来来了玛丽兹。她惊艳动人。白皙、光滑、性感，喜欢到处游玩和穿搭。每次和她在一起，人们都会用不同的眼光看她，就像一件骄傲的战利品。我的船员们会开玩笑说：“太棒了，兄弟，你的女朋友真漂亮！”我承认，我的自尊心很喜欢那样。
我被蒙蔽了。虽然我感觉莉娅才是真正爱我的那个人，但我离开了她，伤了她的心，娶了玛丽兹。
起初很幸福。她外表漂亮，在社交媒体上炫耀很不错。但随着时间推移，我发现她不会照顾人。她讨厌去看望我的家人。每当我寄一点小礼物，她总是抱怨：“就这样？我认识的妻子有新车了。”
每次我回家，不是开心的问候，而是抱怨。她总是和朋友外出，发帖，喝酒，购物。她对我是否疲惫，是否吃饭，家人是否安好毫无兴趣。
那时，我开始后悔了。
有一天晚上，我休假时路过莉娅家。她还在那里，依旧简单，依旧安静。她和一个孩子在一起，据说是她的侄子。我看到她如何照顾那个孩子，如何关心，如何微笑，尽管生活并不奢华。
那一刻，我胸口一阵疼痛。我意识到，我放手了那个本可以成为最好的妻子和母亲的女人。
那个在我一无所有时爱我的女人。
现在，我住在大房子里，但感觉空荡荡的。我的妻子漂亮，是的，但当爱缺失时，美丽也会消逝。
如果能回到过去，我会选择那个真正把我当成她的世界，而不仅仅是她的供养者的人。
给所有读到这篇文章的海员们：不要仅仅因为一个女人在别人眼中漂亮就娶她。
找那个会支持你，照顾你的家人，即使你一无所有也爱你的人。因为现在，我就是活生生的证明，有时候，最大的风暴不在海上，而是在你和错误的人一起建造的家中。
一位后悔的海员
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